Q33. How can we apply Jain values & contemplation in real-life scenarios and avoid reacting in a way that leads to suffering in self and others?
The first article in the series of making Jainism more accessible focused on Mindset. We explored how being clear on our purpose for practicing Jainism can provide direction and become the driving force of our choices. We reflected that gaining knowledge is not enough, we must also be diligent and mindful in our practices. In the second article, we delved into the importance of meditation practices and mindfulness as tools that help us live with more awareness.
In this article, we will take up a few practical examples of how to be aware of our feelings and direct them so that we relate better to the world around us and, as importantly, within us. The feelings that come from knowledge of our true self are known as Bhavnas or Reflections in Jainism. Contemplating these Jain Bhavnas can provide a practical framework for integrating Jain values into daily life.
These reflections on Bhavnas and Core Values, encourage mindfulness and moral living, fostering inner transformation, peace, harmony, and spiritual growth. By contemplating the impermanent nature of the world, the inevitability of suffering, the solitude of the soul, and the importance of spiritual discipline, individuals can cultivate detachment, self-reliance, and a deeper understanding of the universe and their place within it.
Real-Life Application of Bhavnas & Virtues
To make these reflections accessible in day-to-day life, let’s consider some common challenges and how the Bhavnas can guide us. It is imperative to ensure that the Bhavnas are aligned with Jain values and should not be used to justify violence, greed, gluttony, deceit, laziness, and other such vices.
Stress and Anxiety to -> Acceptance and Finding Balance in Chaos
Challenge: Imagine you are experiencing financial difficulties, feeling a heavy weight of worry about bills and future stability. This anxiety affects your sleep and overall well-being, making you feel trapped and hopeless.
Practice: In this situation, take a moment to engage in Anitya Bhavna (Contemplation on Impermanence). Reflect on the idea that all material conditions, including financial struggles, are temporary and subject to change. Just as seasons shift, so too will your circumstances. Spend time meditating on the impermanence of wealth and possessions, recognizing that true peace comes from within and not from external sources. This awareness can help you cultivate detachment and acceptance, alleviating your anxiety and allowing you to face challenges with a more balanced mind. Embrace the belief that this phase will pass, and focus on nurturing your inner self.
Bhavna: Anitya Bhavna (Contemplation on Impermanence)
Dependence on Others to -> Cultivating Self-Reliance and Strength in Solitude
Challenge: You find yourself feeling anxious and upset when a family member does not provide the emotional support you expected during a difficult time, leaving you feeling unworthy or alone, and intensifying your sense of isolation.
Practice: In this situation, take a moment to reflect on Ekatva Bhavna (Contemplation on Solitude of the Soul). Embrace the understanding that true strength comes from within and that your well-being does not solely depend on the support of others. Consider that solitude can be a powerful space for growth and self-discovery. For instance, when you feel let down, use that time to engage in activities that nourish your soul, such as meditation, journaling, or pursuing a hobby. This practice fosters inner peace and a deeper connection with yourself, reinforcing the idea that you can find joy and strength independently.
Bhavna: Ekatva Bhavna (Contemplation on Solitude of the Soul)
Coping with Loss to -> Finding Peace and Growth in Grief
Challenge: Experiencing the profound grief of losing a loved one can be one of life’s most difficult challenges. The pain and sorrow can feel overwhelming, making it hard to find solace or meaning in everyday activities.
Practice: In times of loss, reflect on the natural cycle of life and death, acknowledging that suffering and separation are inherent parts of existence. This contemplation can help you accept the reality of your grief, allowing you to process your emotions more healthily. For example, after the passing of a family member, meditating on the inevitable nature of life’s transitions can provide solace and help you find peace amidst the sorrow. Understanding that death is a part of life’s journey can gradually transform your grief into a deeper appreciation for the time you shared and the memories you created.
Bhavna: Asharana Bhavna (Contemplation on the Insecurity and Helplessness of the Soul)
Material Success to -> Rediscovering Purpose beyond Material Wealth
Challenge: You go through a blue patch and start getting disproportionate success in your work. You reach a position where material wealth is chasing you and start chasing it back. Your entire attention and focus shifts to making and managing your wealth, and you start neglecting things and people that bring happiness and satisfaction to you.
Practice: It is more common to search for refuge in religion and spirituality when situations are difficult. However, handling success with a sense of dispassion and awareness is as significant. It is important to be recognized whenever you find yourself overly attached to material possessions, leading to greed, dissatisfaction, and a constant craving for more. This attachment might manifest in an insatiable desire for the latest gadgets, luxury items, or status symbols, which ultimately brings more stress and less fulfillment. When you notice an excessive attachment to material things, reflect on the transience and separateness of these objects from your true self and the eternal. This reflection can guide you towards more mindful and meaningful living. By focusing on the impermanence of material possessions, you can shift your attention to what truly matters, such as relationships, personal growth, and spiritual fulfillment.
Bhavna: Anyatva Bhavna (Contemplation on the Separateness of the True Self with Objects)
Dealing with Difficult co-workers to -> Building Bridges through Kindness
Challenge: You encounter a coworker who is difficult to get along with, creating a tense and uncomfortable work environment.
Practice: In such a situation, practice Maitri Bhavna by cultivating an attitude of friendliness and goodwill towards this person. Instead of reacting with frustration or avoidance, try to understand their perspective and find common ground. For instance, you might make an effort to engage in small talk, show genuine interest in their opinions, or offer help when needed. Additionally, consider sending silent good wishes to them—wishing for their happiness, peace, and success. This practice can help shift your mindset from resentment to compassion, fostering a sense of connection even amidst conflict. By approaching the relationship with kindness and openness, you can transform a potentially negative interaction into a positive and constructive one, thereby improving the overall work environment.
Bhavna: Maitri Bhavna (Contemplation on Friendliness)
Transforming Pity into Purpose -> Extending Help with Heart
Challenge: You come across a homeless person on the street, feeling a mix of pity and helplessness about their situation.
Practice: Reflect on Karuna Bhavna by cultivating compassion and empathy. Instead of merely feeling sorry, take a moment to consider how you can actively help. This might involve giving food, donating to a shelter, or simply offering a kind word and a smile. Practicing compassion not only aids those in need but also enriches your sense of purpose and connection to humanity. For example, volunteering at a local soup kitchen can provide practical assistance to those in need and offer you a profound sense of fulfillment and community.
Bhavna: Karuna Bhavna (Contemplation on Compassion)
Countering Deceit to -> Releasing Resentment and Embracing Forgiveness
Challenge: A close friend or family member has deceived you, leading to feelings of anger, betrayal, and resentment.
Practice: In such a scenario, practice Kshama by focusing on forgiveness. Understand that holding onto anger only harms you and impedes your peace of mind. Reflect on the situation from a place of empathy, considering the other person's perspective and the possibility that their actions might have been unintentional or influenced by circumstances. By forgiving them, you release yourself from the burden of negative emotions and pave the way for reconciliation and healing. For instance, having an open conversation to express your feelings and understand their side can facilitate forgiveness and restore harmony in your relationship.
Jain Virtue: Kshama (Forgiveness)
Conclusion
Incorporating the Bhavna and Jain meditation practices into daily life provides a practical path to achieving inner transformation, peace, and spiritual growth. By reflecting on these principles and engaging in regular meditation, individuals can navigate life's challenges with equanimity and contribute to a harmonious and compassionate world. This approach not only enhances personal well-being but also fosters a supportive and positive environment for those around us. Through mindful practice, we can truly embody the essence of Jain values in our everyday lives. Some of these benefits that you may observe are:
Inner Transformation: Regular reflection and meditation cultivate a deep sense of self-awareness and spiritual growth.
Peace and Harmony: Mindfulness practices reduce stress, promote emotional balance, and enhance interpersonal relationships.
Spiritual Growth: Consistent engagement with Jain principles fosters a sense of purpose, leading to a more fulfilling and enlightened life.
Positive Influence on Others: Practitioners often inspire those around them to adopt similar values, creating a ripple effect of peace and ethical living.
As we conclude this article, we want to hear from our readers, YOU!
We encourage you to reflect on your own experiences. Have there been moments in your life where you consciously applied Jain values or the Bhavna to overcome a challenge? How did it shape the outcome for you and those around you? Alternatively, if you're currently facing a difficult situation and are unsure how to incorporate Jain principles into it, feel free to share your thoughts. Together, we can explore ways to approach these challenges mindfully, fostering peace, harmony, and spiritual growth in everyday life. Please share your experiences and/or your questions in the comments below.